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Monday, May 23, 2011

How To Destroy Your Haters in 30 Days or Less


I knew that title would get you (in English man accent)! This blog post is not about how to rid the earth of your enemies. I want to discuss the dysfunction that we have found ourselves in as it relates to this subject. Over this past week I have read numerous status updates via facebook, twitter, etc. regarding haters and the offended party's response to them. Have you ever wondered why people hate on one another in the first place? First, a definition is in order. To hate is to dislike intensely or passionately, or to feel extreme hostility towards. People who feel they are being "hated on" are in essence saying that they are intensely disliked and feel extreme hostility emanating from a person/group of people toward them. Newsflash---it is not a good thing to be on the receiving end of this interaction. What does hate of this sort stem from? More than likely, though debatable, it comes from the person (the hater) feeling dissatisfied with their current condition, yet not having the means, ability,courage, etc. to change their situation and thus improve upon it. Therefore, when they see another person (usually of similar origins) attempting to change their situation and showing signs of measurable progress, jealousy/envy is aroused in the person who lacks this power. As I have said before, this is a very natural occurrence and one that should be discounted as such. The dysfunction that I witness on a day to day basis are those who relish in the bliss (paradoxical) of being disliked intensely. It's really quite mad. This condition is generally seen in those who lack a healthy knowledge of self identity and awareness, thus they draw energy from others, even though it is negative (it is energy nonetheless to draw upon). We have fallen into a trap in this current population, to believe that it is a glorious feat to be the subject of an other's hostility due to our own progress. The correct mind to have as it relates to our "haters" is to seek ways to empower them so that they too may progress (should they elect to receive your assistance). Let's be honest, we have all been a "hater" at one point or another.